Dear Dish on Dating Bon Jovi Style
Dish, what are your thoughts on meeting random people vs. meeting random people through friends in terms of dating? Clearly, everyone would love to meet someone through their friends as it's like they've already passed a pre-screening test, but is there anything wrong with meeting random people and just applying the pre-screening test? When speaking about meeting random people, I am referring to using methods such as public dances, bowl-athons, joining a gang, online dating, speed dating, and the ever popular hot dog eating contests.As a follow-up...why am I scared to hear that someone isn't interested in me? Clearly, I deliver that message to countless women every day who have their hearts broken when I say "No." to them. Why can't I accept some of my own bad medicine (any Bon Jovi themed answer would be appreciated here).
Sincerely,
Name withheld
Dear Sir:
It seems the possibilities for meeting people these days are endless. Personally, of all the options you listed above, I would think the best one would be the hot dog eating contest. At least that way you are assured that you aren’t going to end up with some sketchy vegetarian type. Might I also be so bold as to add "air guitar contest" to your list of viable places to meet a cool potential mate.
When it comes to meeting people through friends or meeting people randomly, I say do whatever works. You can meet some crazies either way. Although meeting people through friends can be considered a pre-screening tactic, you have to keep in mind that sometimes people act differently in a friendship situation than they do in a relationship situation. The friend pre-screen, while sometimes effective, can often lead you astray.
Really, the absolute best way to screen someone is to develop your own set of criteria. Get to know the person and use your gut instincts. It may also help to tell a trusted neutral friend with good judgement some things about the person. Hopefully your friend will be honest with you and tell you if your new main squeeze is a dud.
In reponse to your follow-up question, we all fear rejection. It's completely normal. I guess it’s because we’ve seen love come, we’ve seen it shot down, we’ve seen it die in vain. I mean really, raise your hands if you want your secret dreams shot down in a blaze of glory. Any takers? I didn’t think so.
Even so, love is like a hunger — without it we would starve. And nothing would mean nothing without love. So don’t runaway from it. Put yourself out there. Tell the person about your feelings. Or, if you know them through a friend, get the friend to hook you up. If that’s what it takes, then that’s what it takes. What do you have to lose? These days, it’s all about taking risks, being wild in the streets. It’s your life afterall.
And who knows? Maybe through your act of courage, you’ll find the one to whom you will never say goodbye, the one with whom you will spend the next 100 years. And you’ll be able to say "I got the girl!" and maybe even put a diamond ring on her finger.
I believe that the only thing to fear is fear itself. Besides, if it doesn’t work out, you can always find something for the pain. Maybe some bitter wine, novocaine, a last cigarette, or a bar that’s open all night. It’s all right if you have a good time!
Besides, even if this person doesn’t turn out to be your true love, you might get one wild night where you get as close as the holy ghost is.
Regardless, before taking any action, just be forewarned that you can’t hide when the infection starts, because love is a social disease. That’s the price of love.
Keep the faith.
Dish
Side note: Contest! The person who comes closest to identifying all of the references to JonBon song titles and lyrics in Dish's response to the follow-up question will win a copy of Dish's new Christmas compilation, scheduled for release later this year. Contest closing date is Friday, July 6, 2007 at 15:30 p.m. EST. Please send your answers to Dish directly by e-mail. One entry per person. A skill-testing question of Dish's choosing will be administered in the event of a tie.
posted by Dish @ 11:56 PM
2 Comments:
People like you distract public servants with your bizarre yet oh-so-enticing Dear Dish contests.
I plan on instigating an Access to Information request to see all the contestant entries to ensure full accoutability and that there was no questionable contest influences going on.
I will not be subject to your government rules and regulations or threatened by your threats of ATIP requests. I am a giver of advice. My goal is to help. Why would I decieve my faithful readers, especially when it comes to something serious like JonBon?!
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