Should I Have Been a Man??
Ok. That title is potentially (actually make that definitely) asking for trouble, but apparently studies have shown that men are more sarcastic than women and that women are more prone to using sarcasm to cut another female out of a conversation or social circle. I can't ever recall sarcastically eliminating anyone from my social circle, but how is it that I am female and yet sarcasm is my main mode of communication? I am the exception to the rule? Am I a product of my environment? I have four sisters, so it must not have been my home environment. Do I have too many male friends? Growing up I spent my time with guys who would fight over the pronounciation of brand names. Is Nike pronounced Nike like Ike or Nikeeee? Adeedas or Aaadeedaas? This is what I had to deal with. Argument for argument's sake. Would this have contributed to sarcasm?Ladies, also please note that when a guy does something for you, you thank him and he says "no problem" or "any time", really he is trying to dominate you and show off his alpha-maleness. Is there no way to escape the overarching ideological structures of our patriarchal society?!! They show up everywhere and are oh so subtle.
Speaking of our patriarchal society, it is time again to start delving into some feminist literature, as is my tradition every year as we approach the black day of death, also known as Singles Awareness Day (S.A.D.). More on this topic later.
For now, I leave you with a fabulous quote from the Simpson's Comic Book Guy: "A sarcasm detector, that's a real useful invention" (sarcasm detector then explodes). Oh and also with a link to Eric Conveys an Emotion, the source of the fabulous picture. This web site cracks me up. Too many funny pictures to list, but I have to give an honourable mention to Hamster in Underpants, which makes me laugh out loud every time.
posted by Dish @ 10:05 PM
20 Comments:
I'm just commenting on what these supposed studies have said. Don't blame me. Blame science!
OH man, pollcrazy, you hit the nail on the head. What kind of worms was dish trying to open here?
WTF? "NO Problem" means we want to dominate women? As if.
That's like saying "You're welcome" and that means that she should come home and cook me a mean shiskabob. Oh, and watch the hockey game with me. While feeding me Cheetos and beer.
Watch for the next time when a guy says "You're welcome" when you say "thanks".
*crickets chirping*
*tumbleweed rolling in the wind*
Ok. First of all, the reason why I have not commented is because I was working not because I "know I am wrong." I am not wrong.
Second, I included a link to the article in my post. I wasn't trying to hide it from anyone.
Third, this desirability issue could be part of it, but the article states: The male approach may be a way of showing dominance, says Dr. Katz, a way for a man to indicate that he has the resources to help. It is not a throwaway comment. It is a way of showing alpha maleness.
The definition of alpha-male is a domineering man; or the dominant member in a group of males.
So attempting to show alpha-maleness shows that you want to be large and in charge. Given that patriarchy is such a part of our ideological structures, most men consciously or unconsciously believe that the only people they have to oppose for dominance is other males. Females are not even considered as opponents. If they are the true alpha-male, then they "rule" all. Why else strive to be the alpha-male? Just because I am seeing it from a feminist perspective, does not make me wrong. Anyone expecting apologies can kiss my big toe, cause he isn't getting one. My blog, my opinions. No apologies.
RIGHT ON TRISH! WORD TO YOUR MOTHER! I SECOND THAT< KISS MY BIG TOE! ;-P
PS> Ferds! High five for the tumble weeds and crickets chirping!
Ah, but the female wolf is usually the one in charge of the pack. During breeding season the alpha-male has been known to harass the alpha-female. Harassment = attempted domination.
Query:
Trish.
If we help you out (that is...if you even wanted our help)with some task, what would you like us to reply to you after you say "Thank you."? Or are we supposed to just yell out "I'm not trying to dominate you, I'm only trying to help!" and run away?
Please note that your next comment will be on behalf of women everywhere (except for the ones who are cryogenically frozen. They have no say.)
Well, if it was just on behalf of myself, I would suggest "It was my pleasure exquisite goddess."
Oh my Lord!
pollcrazy, let's leave this comment section as it stands. There's no talking to these 'people'. They're wacked out on Scooby Snacks!
No problem, you're welcome, anytime, see ya later crazy lady.
Ryan. You love me. Where would you be without me and my thought-provoking blog? :o) Keeps things from getting dull.
I want you guys to hear this REALLY STRANGE THING that just happened to me...
A woman at work asked if I could help her do something and I did.
Then she said 'Thanks' and I said 'No problem'.
And she didn't say "You chauvinist dominating oaf-wad!"
Strange eh? I was shocked that nothing was said. Clearly, the only people that say these things are the people interviewed for the articles and the Main Dish.
I never said I would actually SAY something to a guy who responded to my thanks with "no problem" or "any time". I merely brought it up as something to think about. Besides, you don't know..maybe she was thinking "You chauvinist dominating oaf-wad!" but didn't say it in order to be polite or maintain a professional attitude. Didn't you read the article. Women have a tendency to want to be polite.
I'm working on it...one minion at a time...
About nine comments above demonstrates what you would say if someone said "No Problem".
On behalf of all women perhaps?
First, the silence comment was directed towards Ferda! "Crickets Chirping"
I've been out of the loop and only just noticed the hulla-ba-loo going on in this thread. Firstly, let me just say that as the dish so eloquently put it... kiss my big toe!!!!!!!!!!!
lol, next time a girl thanks me. I am going to have to smirk and say,
"That's right I'm dominating you."
At which point she will probably wipe the smirk off your face by kicking you "where the sun don't shine"!
And mess up your steletto's (sp?)?
It won't mess up the stilettos, it will just give the kick a little more oomph!
So I was at the grocery store the other day, and I moved plastic bar/grocery separator from the front of my groceries, to the back (the lady in front of me got all her stuff scanned).
The lady behind me said thanks me... of course the first thing that pops into my head is, That's right, I'm dominant, check out all my Alpha male...ness.
But, unfortunatly I end up sticking with the casually dominant, "No problem".
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